Have you recently entered the very first relationship you ever really cared about so you are now stressed not to do something to hurt or even ruin it? Well, there are some fundamental needs that we all share as humans and as long as you discover which of them matters the most to the person you love, then the communication between the two of you will be much improved. If you know how to correctly communicate, you can be sure that things between the two of you will nicely grow.
The first fundamental need that humans have is for certainty. They want to be sure that the commitment that they are about to make is worth the effort, that they are engaging in a relationship that won’t bring them pain, stress and risks. They want the certainty that things will be all right, even when they get hard.
Variety is another fundamental human need. Even though we don’t like to admit it, we are creatures of habit but only to one point. We feel the need of surprising events that are not necessarily planned, exciting moments and we feel the need for a lot of fun. A lot of people might be reticent about the unexpected but they will still try it, which shows me that they enjoy it. Moving to the next fundamental human need, we would like to tell you more about significance. The need for feeling important, significant and having a meaning in life is huge. Transcribing this to a relationship, you won’t be surprised to learn that your partner feels the need of being important to you and the need of you wanting them to fulfil your needs. Moving further, we’ve reached connection and love. Who doesn’t need these? We know that relationships are hard and we are now referring to all types of relationships, not just the intimate ones but we still engage in them and we still spend a lot of time, effort and emotions on them. We have to connect because we are social animals and we need other souls in our lives. Of course, when it comes to love, we all know that we flourish only when we feel it, one way or another. Last but not least, contribution is another fundamental human need. Contribution gives us a feeling of meaning, it determines who we are in this world and it helps us build our legacy.
These are the basic, fundamental needs of any human being. Discover which of these describes your partner the most and you’ll be able to easier fulfill those. The benefits are going to be huge, both for yourself and for your partner. You will simply feel better and more comfortable with each other, which is absolutely going to boost your relationship. Don’t be hesitant to do an introspection into these fundamental needs and try to discover yours as well. It is all about human psychology and your interest in making sure that your relationship is one that grows in a healthy way.